The Big Move

        

So, it’s been nearly a year since I’ve posted to the blog but this big change warranted a post. Hoping to get back to more postings about our new journey.

It seems like most people have a similar story; the couple meet in college, they fall in love and get married. They spend the next 10 years or so traveling, building their careers, building a home with pretty things and enjoying time with each other before settling down to have children. Good, bad or indifferent, our story is the opposite of most.

My husband and I met when we were 16 during my junior and his senior year of high school. We fell in love and got engaged at 19 and 20, married at 20 and 21 had our first baby at 21 and 22 with the second baby at 24 and 25. There was no money or time to travel, to build a career, to build a home with pretty things or spend a lot of time together. We focused on our children and our family.

Then in the blink of an eye, we realized our children are pretty much grown. We took a step back and evaluated. We have been married for nearly 22 years and most of our furniture was given to us and we had no matching dishes or towels (just to nam a few). We had been so focused on raising children, we hadn’t really focused on all the little things. We were living like college students!

So we decided to make a big change. We decided to sell our family home and purchase a small town home near the beach. Our town home is about half the size of our family home. This was the perfect opportunity to throw away all of our old crap and actually be adults and buy and fill our home with new and pretty things.

Our daughter has moved out and will be getting married next year (yikes!). Our son will be 18 in a month and will spend his senior year in the town home before he goes to college. After that, it will be just the two of us. We have never truly been married without kids but we are excited about this next season of our lives. While everyone else our age is raising a family, we will be biking to the beach to watch the sunset, paddleboarding down the intercoastal, fishing from our boat, walking to beach restaurants for dinner and traveling the world.

Even though our story is different, I wouldn’t change it for the world. I have two amazing (ahem) adult children (still so hard to say) that I am incredibly proud of and a loving husband that I get to spend the rest of my life with. So while it’s sad to see my children go, I am excited to step into the next phase of our marriage; our fun empty nest phase.

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What If?

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I once heard a speaker ask an audience the question, “what would you do if you knew that you could not fail?” Wow! I mean, if you really think deeply on this question it will blow your mind a little bit. I heard this probably over a year ago and it still sticks with me. It’s pretty easy to list out all the things you’d do (theoretically) especially if you knew that you couldn’t fail. Even knowing that failure is an option, it’s easy to list things you’d do with your life theoretically. What’s almost impossible is taking action on those items. It’s super easy to say that you’d quit your job and start a business or get rid of possessions and move to a third world country to teach the impoverished English.

I’m a dreamer by nature. I’m also a very restless person that loves change. For me, I’m always thinking of things I’d like to do differently, places I’d like to go and things I’d like to change. Being in my head would probably give you whiplash. This is why the idea of living in an RV and traveling the country with my husband in early retirement is such an appealing idea to me. I’d always be on the go and always changing seeing the country with my best friend. This is still on the table for later down the road after the kids are on their own so well see what happens.

In the meantime, I thought it would be fun to list just a few of the things that I would do if I knew that I could not fail (in no particular order).

  • Run a paddleboard lessons, fitness and yoga business
  • Become a pro paddleboard racer
  • Become a math teacher
  • Sell our ridiculously expensive house and move close to the beach
  • Sell our ridiculously expensive house and move further north to have more land
  • Move to Hawaii
  • Move to Tennessee
  • Move to Colorado
  • Be a youth leader in a church

It’s fun to dream. Will any of these actually happen? Who knows; maybe one day.

Dreamcatcher Wall Hanging

Dreamcatcher Wall Hanging

Earlier this year, I made several dreamcatchers (you can see the DIY post HERE) but never got around to hanging and displaying them in my house. The Native American symbol comes with a legend behind it. The dreamcatcher is supposed to be hung above your bed in order to catch the bad dreams in the web while letting the good dreams through the hole in the middle. As the sun’s rays hit the dreamcatcher in the morning, all of the bad dreams will evaporate.

Since I already had a wall hanging above my bed and had made three different dreamcatchers, I decided to do a display using all of them. I’m pretty happy with the look of it, but I do have to say one thing. I am not one to have bad dreams very often and the first night I slept under the dreamcatchers, I had a terrible dream. Oh, well, at least it looks pretty.