The hubs and I went on a very quick getaway to Denver to see our favorite singer live. We have been dying to see Amanda Shires for years but she never seems comes to our state. However, she does go to places like Denver, CO. Since we had just celebrated our 20 year wedding anniversary, we figured, why the heck not. Let’s go to Denver! It was the perfect excuse. So, we booked our little 2 1/2 day getaway to Denver to see Amanda at Opelia’s Electric Soapbox (amazing little venue) and to do a bit of sightseeing (my fave). Unfortunately, I had altitude sickness the entire trip but was determined to push through. It was by far the most fun I have ever had all while feeling dizzy and nauseous.
It is truly amazing how quickly twenty years of marriage has flown by. The first decade was spent having and raising young children and seemed to go by at somewhat of a normal pace. The second decade has gone by in the blink of an eye. It feels a bit strange and surreal; like a couple of years went by but definitely not ten. It seems like we went to sleep one night with young children and woke up with older teens. We now find ourselves embarking on being empty nesters with two adult children. I really am having trouble wrapping my mind around this time warp.
Let’s back up over two decades for just a minute. I’ve been told that my marriage and what we have is an anomaly; truly unlikely and almost statistically impossible. The hubs and I met my junior year, his senior year of high school. We became best friends and then started dating. After dating for four years (on and off), we got married at the young age of 20 and had a baby right away at the age of 21. Being together since the age of 16, getting married young and having a baby at a young age. Any one of these factors alone sets us up for failure, but all three? Impossible. Right? Well, somehow we made it. Not only have we made it this far but we are happy; seriously happy. We are just as happy now as we were way back then, maybe even more so.
I don’t know that there is any one “secret” to my marriage. I am just as awestruck as anyone looking in from the outside, to be honest. I feel incredibly grateful for what I have and I definitely try not to ever take it for granted. I will say that getting married young and having children young as opposed to waiting until we were older and “set up” in life had its real advantages in our marriage. In those early years, we truly fumbled through life. We were so young and had absolutely no idea what we were doing. I think when you get married young, you expect each other to change. You expect each other to grow. This expectation allowed us to come together and actually grow up together. Neither one of us had the answers. We just figured it out as we went, but we did so together. It was an adventure. It was our adventure that turned into an absolutely beautiful life with an amazing marriage and two awesome kids.
What will the next twenty years hold? I have no idea. I do know that it will lead us into a brand new season in our lives. We will have two adult children, become empty nesters, put our children through college and watch them spread their wings and start their own lives. Then it is us again. Back to the beginning, in a weird sort of way. We still won’t have the answers but we will figure it out together. It will be our next adventure.
* Steve, I cannot thank you enough for sticking by me all these years. I absolutely love doing life with you. I cannot wait to see what the next twenty years hold for us. No doubt, it will be something beautiful. I love you with all my heart. 😉
The snorkel trip had a very interesting beginning. We went to what we thought was the dive shop that I booked the trip with. After several back and forth trips and stringing us along, we found out that this dive shop was not who we booked with. They were apparently trying to scam us into booking with them instead. Luckily, a sweet lady that represented our dive shop, Isla Mujeres Trips, called our hotel to say that we were late to check-in but they would wait on us. When getting on the boat we were a bit surprised to be the only English speaking people. Our tour guide didn’t even speak any English. Yikes! Steve and I looked at each other and said, “well this is going to be an interesting trip!” After a bit of time, we found out that a young Spanish couple on the boat lived in New York and could speak English so they translated the important stuff. Thank God!
This was the only day I had actually booked ahead to do an excursion. The only thing that I didn’t want to miss was MUSA, an underwater art that lies between the shores of Cancun and our little island. I have to admit that I half heartedly booked the trip not expecting to see much. Because we are not certified divers, we could only snorkel and the museum was 30 feet beneath the surface. I thought we would be able to see hints of the sculptures at best. Man, was I ever wrong. The beautiful water had certainly impressed me the first day, but that was nothing compared to our snorkel of the museum. When jumping off the boat, the first set of sculptures were the grouping of statues. The statues were so visible and clear from 30 feet that we could see the details of their faces. It was so clear, I felt like I was in 5 feet of water. AMAZING! From there we went on to see the VW bug sculpture and the sculptures of people in prostrate form.
Even though the snorkel trip was MUCH colder that I liked, it was all worth it. I love snorkeling and have seen many reefs but this snorkel trip took the cake. It was by far the prettiest and most memorable trip of all time. We ended the day at a restaurant (with the wavy pier) for a nice fish dinner.
Day two was shaping up to be a fairly cloudy and somewhat chilly day so we rented a golf cart and toured the island. Isla Mujeres is so small that you can see the entire island in 2 hours via golf cart. How cool is that? We set out on the adventure with no agenda in mind (quite unusual for me). There is almost no possible way to get lost since there is only one road that goes around the island (with ocean views, I might add). We rode in the golf cart and simply stopped when we saw something of interest; a roadside restaurant with a very unstable “wavy” pier, intriguing B & B with the best piña colada I’ve ever had, random reggae bar with a live band, beautiful rocky oceanside views and a surprisingly colorful and beautiful cemetery (never thought I’d think of a cemetery in that way). It was the best day and I fell more in love with this beautiful little island and the golf cart driver. 😉
After a flight, a shuttle and a boat ride, we landed on this tiny island just off the coast of Mexico. Isla Mujeres was all that we thought it would be and maybe even a bit more. I was immediately taken by the views. I assumed all the pics online were touched up but I was completely wrong. The water was a bright, crystal clear, fluorescent, turquoise dream; amazing! We were ready to start the “becoming 40” celebration.
Let the celebrations begin! In my last post, I mentioned that 2016 is the year of celebration. It will kick off in exactly one month. One month from today, I will be sitting right here on this beach. I will be spending the last week of my 30’s in style! How do I prepare for becoming 40? By going to a very small island in the Caribbean off the coast of Mexico. Isla Mujeres, here we come!
Every now and then our anniversary falls on Labor Day and that means a guaranteed day off to celebrate. This year we celebrated 19 years of marriage! Wow, how did that number get so big so fast? Sometimes it all seems like a blur between, jobs, homes, raising kids, school, etc. The one thing I do know is that it has been an awesome journey and a great ride. I wouldn’t want to do this life with anyone else. Simply put, this guy makes life fun. He makes me laugh and fills in all the gaps where I fall short.
We decided to spend the day (first part at least) at the beach snorkeling. We did an early morning snorkel which meant there were a ton of fish to see. It was breathtaking! There were other big plans for the day like riding a motorcycle and such but true to Florida summers, it stormed all afternoon. Hey, that’s ok because we had a great excuse for a long afternoon nap. It couldn’t have gone any better. Happy anniversary, Steve! Here’s to many, many more.
This place. It seems when we are here, time stands still. I love going out to the Everglades with Steve to watch the sunset. It is in these moments when we can put everything aside just be. We can sit and watch the beauty all around us while we talk about big things, little things, silly things, insignificant things, everything. I love dreaming. I love thinking about what can be. These are some of my most favorite moments.