Scary Close Book Review

Scary-Close-by-Donald-Miller

Scary Close is a genuine book that takes you on a real life journey with Donald Miller as he seeks to break down the walls, take off the masks and find true intimacy.  Most of us go through life putting on a front (mask) in order to impress people.  This book talks about how to be you; really be yourself.  Until you become honest with yourself and reach the point of being the person you really are at the core, you cannot have true intimacy with others.  Donald really makes you think and take step back to assess yourself; are you being truly you or are you putting on a mask?

Below are some of my highlights, notes and “a-ha” moments from the book.  

What if we are designed as sensitive antennas, receptors to receive love, a longing we often mistake as a need to be impressive?

What if some of the most successful people in the world got that way because their success was fueled by a misappropriated need for love?

Sometimes the story we’re telling the world isn’t half as endearing as the one that lives inside us.

Let’s face it, most of us wear our jobs like a costume.

I began to wonder what life would be like if I dropped the act and began to trust that being myself would be enough to get the love I needed.

Somewhere along the line I think many of us buy into a lie that we only matter if . . . We only matter if we are strong or smart or attractive or whatever.

She and her husband had done their work, both physically and emotionally, and it was as though they’d finally woken up to the fact we were meant to enjoy life, not be drowned by it.

Somewhere along the line I think many of us buy into a lie that we only matter if . . . We only matter if we are strong or smart or attractive or whatever.

She and her husband had done their work, both physically and emotionally, and it was as though they’d finally woken up to the fact we were meant to enjoy life, not be drowned by it.

In the next five years we will become a conglomerate of the people we hang out with.

90 percent of people’s problems could be prevented if they’d choose healthier people to give their hearts to.

THE ROOT OF sin is the desire for control.

The root of control is fear.

Not even God controls people’s stories and he’s the only one who actually can.

Nobody’s self-worth lives inside of another person.

You can’t have a true, intimate relationship with people you control. Control is about fear. Intimacy is about risk.

It’s a beautiful moment when somebody wakes up to this reality, when they realize God created them so other people could enjoy them, not just endure them.

Life is more about connecting with people than it is about competing with them.

The most common regret of the dying was this: they wish they’d had the courage to live a life true to themselves and not the life others expected of them.

Makes me wonder if the time we spend trying to become somebody people will love isn’t wasted because the most powerful, most attractive person we can be is who we already are.

If we live behind a mask we can impress but we can’t connect.

Codependency happens when too much of your sense of validation or security comes from somebody else.

What goes on in the other person’s soul is none of your business.

All you’re responsible for is your soul, nobody else’s.

Know who you are and know what you want in a relationship, and give people the freedom to be themselves.

I’m responsible for my own health and happiness.

I’m convinced every person has a longing that will never be fulfilled and it’s our job to let it live and breathe and suffer within it as a way of developing our character.

Jesus never offers that completion here on earth.

I don’t know if there’s a healthier way for two people to stay in love than to stop using each other to resolve their unfulfilled longings and, instead, start holding each other closely as they experience them.

Tear a little hole in the fabric of reality so something on the other side shines through, exposing the darkness of our routine existence.

Children learn what’s worth living for and what’s worth dying for by the stories they watch us live.

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