This year, spring break looked a whole lot different. Our normal tradition is to go on a yearly family vacation during spring break. We have done so every year but this one. With Danica graduating high school and sending her off to college in the fall, we decided to do a graduation trip this summer of her choosing (within reason, of course). So this year was spent working, doing a college tour and going to the beach. Hey, how awesome is it that we just have to drive a few miles from my house to enjoy the ocean. I’ll take it.
“For whatever we lose (like a you or a me), It’s always our self we find in the sea.” – e.e. Cummings
I used to be out on the ocean every week without fail. No matter what is going on in my life; no matter what hardship I may be facing, when I’m on the ocean it all melts away if even for a moment. I hadn’t been paddleboarding in months, since before my mom’s accident. I decided this weekend to take a little bit of time this past weekend to get back out on the ocean for a paddle and I’m so glad I did. It helps make the burdens just a bit easier to carry.
My sweet Danica turned 18 this past week. I cannot even describe my very fragile emotions about this occurrence, but we certainly cannot stop time. All we can do is enjoy the moment that we are given. We are only guaranteed today. So, because of this fact and because 18 deserves a big celebration, Dee and I played hooky from school and work and spent the day playing. We went to the beach, had a nice lunch and got manicures and pedicures. It was certainly a day well spent. I am so incredibly blessed that not only do I get to be this beautiful person’s mother but I get to be her friend. I just love spending time with my Danica.
The celebrating didn’t stop there as we decided to do a cookout at my brother’s house this past weekend to celebrate this monumental birthday. We were able to get my dad there as well. It certainly wasn’t the same without my mom (it never is), but I think it was nice for everyone to step back, relax, actually smile and laugh a bit and celebrate this special day.
Well, Dee, this is it. You’re officially an adult. I hope and pray that I am still the one that you run to with anything and everything. As we embark upon college, this will certainly be key. You came into this world 18 years ago to a newly turned 21 year old with no clue what to do. You radically changed my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way. You have blessed me beyond measure and you continue to do so everyday. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without you. You were are my little girl and no matter how old you get. That will never change. I love you to the moon and back!
*Sorry for the disjointed post. It is sort like my emotions these days. Thanks for following along. :)
Today, 18 years ago, my life was forever changed. Dee, my life is simply better because of you. You have brought more joy to me than I could have ever imagined possible. You are sweet, kind, loving compassionate, fun and just all around awesome! I am so incredibly proud to be your mom. Thank you for all that you are and all that you bring to my life. Happy 18th birthday! I love you with all my heart.
Also, I’m now officially the parent of an adult. I AM OLD!
Well, I just turned 39. I was told to enjoy this last year because your 40’s are the hardest decade. Typically, you’re taking care of children and aging parents at the same time. Most likely you make good money but not yet the best of your career and you’re strapped to put kids through college. I don’t know if this is exactly true. I am raising children and will be putting one in college and one in private school (God willing) this fall. My parents are young; late 50’s but with my mom’s recent car accident and struggle to get well, maybe that qualifies. They way I look at it, I hit the “hard decade” early. That’s probably because I started young; married at 20 and first baby at 21.
All in all, I’m still going to enjoy this “last year”. My birthday weekend was the first time I set aside time to just play and enjoy myself since my mom’s accident two months ago. I ache when I can’t be there with her but I absolutely love spending time with my family. This birthday was spent thrift clothes shopping and berry picking with my favorite girl and grilling out my favorite foods with my family at home. It was amazing. I have to remember to set aside time for myself and simply enjoy life. 40 will be here before I know it. ;)
*the berries were used to can jam – stay tuned for a future post.
Steve had a wonderful idea to take the Friday off before my birthday/Valentine’s Day weekend to simply hang out together without people or distractions. This day off was the first fun thing I’ve done since my mom’s accident two months ago. We slept in, got coffee, ate a cafe breakfast, bought a hat I’ve had my eye on for months, went to the beach (oh how I’ve missed that) and then to dinner. It was a day to refresh, recharge and reconnect;i t was absolutely perfect. I don’t think the day could have been any better. He knew exactly what I needed. (love you babe! ;) )
With my mom now being in ICU for over a month, I really wanted to find a way to get something cheerful into her room especially now that she is starting to wake up a bit. Unfortunately, there is a no flower and no plant rule in the ICU due to the possibility of spreading germs and aggravating allergies. (side note: apparently some hospitals are moving to this rule for all rooms) I kept trying to come up with possibilities, then it hit me like a ton of bricks one day while trying to focus on something else – story of my life. If she could not have a live flower, then I could make her a flower that would never die; perfect!
I’m thinking of making up a few of these and maybe bringing them to a nursing home that my church is involved with. I was pretty happy with the way it turned out. You cannot see if from these pics, but the “dirt” inside the flower pot is a crocheted circle as well. Below are basic instructions to make one yourself.
Brown and Yellow Yarn
Size “G” Crochet Hook
Green Pipe Cleaner
Small Flower Pot
Hot Glue Gun and Glue
Instructions (all stitches are single crochet):
- Using the brown yarn, crochet a circle the same as you would to start a hat. Make as large or small as you’d like.
- On the last row around use the yellow yarn.
- Once you’ve made a complete row around with the yellow yarn, start making the petals with decreasing sets for each petal. Once you’ve crocheted to the tip of the petal, single crochet down the side to get back to the base to begin the next petal.
- Crochet another circle using the brown yarn large enough to glue into the flower pot.
- Fill the flower pot 3/4 full of pillow stuffing.
- Glue the “dirt” circle into the pot.
- Twist three green pipe cleaners together and affix and glue to the flower and then feed through the middle hole in the “dirt” circle and feed the pipe cleaner out through the bottom hole in the flower pot and glue onto the bottom of the pot.
“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”
This verse is amazing, comforting and encouraging, but definitely not easy to adhere to especially in those dark and unknown times. But, God knows best. He always knows best and His plan is far better and immeasurably more than all we can ask or imagine. So, here we are. We wait and pray. And while we wait and pray we put all our eggs in His basket. He will certainly deliver something perfect and glorious and far better than anything our small meager minds are currently imagining.
“Often people who are not in the limelight in the church feel they are not as important as those up front. Some even feel they are second class. The truth is we are all number one, because God has no favorites. The Bible tells us that God is impartial. There are no little people, because we are all special to Him. We all have a congregation and a sermon to live. The Bible says, ‘Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Father which is in heaven’ (Matthew 5:16). In our pulpit, the work place, God has people who will never attend a church and He is depending on us to be a living sermon to them” -Power of the Pew Warmer by Charles Pearce
Unfortunately, many times we don’t really see someone’s true value or their true impact on others until they are not around. This is the point in which you really feel and see their void. At least, this is what I had always heard, but never really experienced.
My mom has been in ICU for 26 days and I can honestly say that I truly understand this now. My mom’s reach and impact on others has been deeper and wider than I had ever realized. She truly lived out the caption above to the fullest degree. She was out there being a doer of the Word each and everyday. Being a light to her family, friends and everyone around her. She was bringing the love of Christ to others. Quilting for the homeless, crafting for the needy, volunteering for the animals, donating time, donating money, supporting and caring for her children and grandchildren; and this was all above and beyond her regular duties of managing a rental business, caring for her home, renovating a retirement home and caring for her husband.
How often do we get so wrapped up in our busy day-to-day lives and miss out on all the important things? I know that I do. I fall into this trap over and over again. I’m too tired, I’ve had a long day, I don’t feel like stopping, I don’t want to take time to talk to that person; wah, wah, wah….me, me, me. Not my mom. She always found the time to do all the important things. To do those things that really matter; the things that have big impacts on individual lives. The things that change lives. She invested of herself. This has been abundantly evident by the outpouring of love, support and prayers that we have received.
A tragic event such as this will put life into perspective. You realize very quickly the things that matter most; people. My mom is an inspiration. She is my inspiration.